{"id":160,"date":"2021-03-22T22:38:23","date_gmt":"2021-03-23T05:38:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/embracingrenewal.com\/?p=160"},"modified":"2023-11-27T12:44:45","modified_gmt":"2023-11-27T20:44:45","slug":"you-did-the-best-you-could-and-so-did-everyone-else","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/embracingrenewal.com\/es\/2021\/03\/22\/you-did-the-best-you-could-and-so-did-everyone-else\/","title":{"rendered":"Why is it important to forgive yourself and others?"},"content":{"rendered":"

My Best Life<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was in my early 30s when I was living my best life<\/em><\/strong>. I was accomplishing a lot in my career, I was in my best physical shape, and my relationship with my loving boyfriend was on the surface, healthy and happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Looking back, I see that I worked an excessive number of hours. I was neglecting all my relationships and my health. I was holding onto beliefs I had embraced when I was a child: I will never marry, I will never have kids, I will be independent, I will be fine without a man.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

During my stint as a workaholic, my values were attached to where I worked, my title, and what praise I received from my managers. I had craved recognition my whole life and became addicted to obtaining a sense of love, acceptance and worth through professional achievements. That was the trajectory I was on. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, I look at my children and the immense joy I have with my family, the stronger and honest relationship with my husband, and I am so grateful that I was able to change my direction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Wake Up Call<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

My sociopathic tendencies were a running joke with my friends. The reality was that many times, I felt I felt nothing.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This emptiness eventually broke me. It forced me to look inward. I realized not only that people around me didn’t fully know me but also that I didn’t recognize who I was. \u00a0I saw mistakes I made, people I hurt, friendships I damaged. I noticed that no one had a complete version of myself. Even though my boyfriend had demonstrated true caring love for me, I was keeping an exit door by not getting married. I understood that my refusal to have children stemmed from my fear of not being able to protect them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was trying to protect myself from getting hurt but I was unconsciously hurting myself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moving Forward<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Through meditation and journaling, I was able to embrace forgiveness for myself. I did the best I could with the tools I had, and my best is enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was a critical concept for me. If I accept it for me, it must be valid for others. People do their best, even when they do terrible things. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am not justifying violence. I am absolutely not saying that it\u2019s ok to accept abuse.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am saying that understanding that the people that hurt us, also come from a painful place, is an important piece of your experience for you to let it go. We need to release the painful experiences for our own healing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I almost paid a high price for avoiding my past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you ignore your emotions, you are taking a big risk with your life. I can help you learn to manage and work with your emotions in a healthy way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you willing to improve your odds?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Love<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Celia<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

PS: You can try this meditation to start your forgiveness process<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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